To speak our hunger for male love would demand that we name the intensity of our lack and our loss. And yet we dare not speak it for fear we will be mocked, pitied, shamed. Our collective hunger is so intense it rends us. We live in a culture where emotionally starved, deprived females are desperately seeking male love. If she is heterosexual she wants the love of a male partner.

Whether gay or straight, bisexual or celibate, she wants to feel the love of father, grandfather, uncle, brother, or male friend. Every woman wants to love and be loved by the males in her life. ExcerptĮvery female wants to be loved by a male. She believes men can find the way to spiritual unity by getting back in touch with the emotionally open part of themselves-and lay claim to the rich and rewarding inner lives that have historically been the exclusive province of women. With trademark candor and fierce intelligence, hooks addresses the most common concerns of men, such as fear of intimacy and loss of their patriarchal place in society, in new and challenging ways. But toxic masculinity punishes those fundamental emotions, and it’s so deeply ingrained in our society that it’s hard for men to not comply-but hooks wants to help change that.

In The Will to Change, bell hooks gets to the heart of the matter and shows men how to express the emotions that are a fundamental part of who they are-whatever their age, marital status, ethnicity, or sexual orientation. But to know love, men must be able to look at the ways that patriarchal culture keeps them from knowing themselves, from being in touch with their feelings, from loving. From the New York Times bestselling author of All About Love, a brave and astonishing work that challenges patriarchal culture and encourages men to reclaim the best part of themselves.Įveryone needs to love and be loved-even men.

The will to change hooks